I admit to doing this at times as well. It's important to remember that we are all human. No one is perfect and although we think we are looking out for our husbands, we are not perfect ourselves. God loves us for who we are, and, likewise, we should love our spouses the same as well.
If there are things that they truly need to improve on, we must help them in a loving and nurturing way and lower our expectations. We must use God's spirit to praise and encourage our loving husbands, rather than tear them down. God made them the way they are for a reason and we must accept this, appreciate their unique personality!
Read this article' The Self-Righteous Wife" for a wonderful reminder on how to positively lift us up in our marriage and to praise our husbands.
The Self-Righteous Wife> Read (The GospelCoalition.org)